I Tore Down the Walls I Built—And Finally Healed

I want to start by saying thank you—to ARCS, to my Coach, to this entire program.

For the first time in my life, I believe I have finally found the healing I’ve been searching for.

Skeptical, But Searching for Something More

I have to admit—when I first started, I was skeptical.

I had already tried so many different things:

1. Counseling
2. Church-based support
3. Self-help programs

Nothing helped.

I felt like I was going in circles—so I stopped trying. I withdrew from people. I became even more isolated.

A Childhood That Shaped Me

I grew up in an unstable home.

1. My father was an alcoholic.
2. My mother was emotionally abusive.
3. I quickly learned that trusting people wasn’t safe.

Because of this, I built walls—I depended on no one.

And when I did enter relationships, I expected them to fill the emptiness inside me.

If they didn’t, I walked away.

That pattern continued—until I met my current husband. By then, I knew I needed to heal. I wanted to heal. But I didn’t know how.

A Program That Finally Made a Difference

ARCS changed everything.

For the first time, I felt like I was actually making progress—not just talking in circles.

What made this program so different?

1. I could move at my own pace. No pressure. No judgment.
2. The activities were transformative. They helped me process, reflect, and heal.
3. I learned how to trust myself, instead of looking for others to “fix” me.

Most importantly, ARCS didn’t just help me understand my past—
It helped me release it.

Because of ARCS, I have:

1. Closure from wounds I’ve carried for far too long.
2. Tools to manage my triggers—instead of letting them control me.
3. Balance, healing, and real hope for the future.

But most of all?

I have finally learned how to be okay with ME—and that has changed everything.